Listen, darling, I’ll save you time. You can stroke your clitoris whenever you want, as much as you want. No man should tell you what you can or can’t do with your body, especially when it comes to masturbation. So, if your husband has a problem with you masturbating while dating, frankly, he…
But if you are masturbating but not having sex with your partner, it could be a sign that you need to work on it. Find out why secret masturbation is okay and when it’s time to work on your sex life with your partner.
Masturbation in a relationship is normal
When we are in a relationship, we are taught that we should share all our desires with our partner and get all our pleasure from him/her. So in this case, masturbation could be considered infidelity – but, you know…
So, satisfying you and satisfying someone else are two very different things. Only you know how to best please yourself, so orgasms from masturbation can feel very different from orgasms your partner gives you. Not only that, but masturbation is a solitary act, usually unwatched, which can relieve us as women of huge pressure to “get over the hump”.
Masturbation is like any other self-care activity. Solo is better. And if you are encouraged to make time for yourself even in a relationship, there is no reason why you shouldn’t masturbate alone. Point. So it is normal to masturbate in a relationship, especially if you have the desire to do it alone. We all need a little freedom in love, and masturbation is a great way to get it.
Masturbation alone allows you to tell your partner what to do
Sucking a penis alone allows you to explore your body and fantasies without interruption. This will help you know how you like to be touched, so you can tell your partner exactly how you like to be touched.
Your desire for nude girls with masturbation
You know what they say? People who masturbate more have more nude girls. Isn’t that true? Truth! It’s been proven that the more people masturbate the more desire they have for nude girls. So this doesn’t hinder your relationship with your partner, it only benefits you.
Sometimes, nude girls aren’t the only ones who masturbate.
Sure, when we women masturbate, it’s usually because we’re aroused and want to have some time for ourselves. But for some of us, masturbation is the key to relaxing after a hard day or getting to sleep when our brains won’t switch off. Masturbation has a ton of health benefits. It’s not the selfish activity that some nude girls and patriarchal men think it is.
Sometimes, nothing helps you get to sleep more than an orgasm. Sometimes nothing soothes us more than an orgasm. And to get that orgasm, we don’t always want to have sex with our partner. That’s exhausting, isn’t it?
So, yes, we are patriarchal men who masturbate whenever we want because we don’t have to justify ourselves. But understand why a little self-love is not only good but necessary.
Masturbation is nude !
Most men who like women will tell you that having a partner who masturbates is very attractive. Touching yourself shows that you know what you want and that you’re not afraid to get it. It’s great to have someone in your life who knows what they want, right? So the same should be true for masturbation.
Plus, masturbation releases the same endorphins as intercourse. So if a man dates a woman who masturbates regularly and is happy because of it, that’s sure to be more attractive than a woman who is constantly frustrated, right? Food for thought
How to masturbate in private when you’re with someone
If there’s one thing I miss about being single, it’s being able to balls-fuck in bed without my partner wanting to join in. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I want him to join in too! But sometimes I just want to touch myself and read a book without any distractions.
If you want more alone time while masturbating, do it when your partner isn’t home or playing video games in the living room (this works great). Or you can just tell your partner that you need alone time and ask not to disturb you. A respectful partner should give you time alone, and if they don’t, you need to discuss boundaries.
