There are many reasons to think about the quality of your sex life as an adult as your relationship progresses (which is a good thing! It’s important to always pay attention to your pleasure). It changes over time, but there’s no reason this is bad. We believe the opposite: having more sex as an adult makes your relationship better.
In reality, the quality of sex as an adult depends on both partners’ willingness to work together toward sexual satisfaction – thinking about their pleasure and their partner’s pleasure. Let’s take a look at why adult sex can be overwhelming in a relationship and how to keep it good over the long term.
Right? Yes, we truly believe that the more adult the relationship, the better the sex, and that a foundation of trust and mutual understanding can be the key to long-term sexual satisfaction. There are many reasons why adult sex should improve over time. One (fairly obvious) reason is the deeper emotional connection adult sex brings when you love someone. Emotional and physical intimacy is the perfect partner, and together they give a whole new meaning to the word “making love.” Another thing is that preferences and fetishes can change or suddenly appear out of nowhere. And few people are better equipped to explore them together than the person you’re in a relationship with. Plus, we all have our little naughty quirks that we’re not comfortable confiding in a short-term sexual partner. There is one word It’s normal to not know how to handle the changing sexual dynamics in a committed relationship, and it’s never a bad thing to be prepared for that from the beginning. Even when you’re single, it’s quite normal to think about how best to handle possible surprises and disappointments in a future relationship, especially if you’re dating.
Solid Foundation
To achieve better sex as the relationship progresses, it’s important to build a solid foundation. This means telling your partner what makes you orgasm (stopping pretending to orgasm has done wonders for my adult sex life. Seriously, ladies, stop it already!) and be prepared to find out what drives him. It’s okay to take things at your own pace and make sure you’re completely comfortable before opening up to your partner. But try to establish healthy communication early on. After all, everyone likes different things, and your partner can’t read your mind.
Increase Openness
Yes, communication is super important when it comes to sex, but it’s not always easy when you’re single or just starting a relationship. Another reason we think adult sex gets better over time is that long-term partners are more likely to tell you when they’re doing something they don’t like, and vice versa.
I can tell you from my own experience that affairs and one-night stands are going to put up with things that you don’t like in the long term. Are you not showering? Are your nails getting too damaged? Yay! That’s a no from me, but only if you feel like you’ve had enough to tell them. This person will also be very likely to respond positively to feedback.
If you haven’t already, try to be more clear about what you like and dislike. That will help you be more receptive to his desires during sex. Sexual fulfillment is never one-sided! Adult sex lives thrive if you’re both happy. That means great adult sex in relationships.
TIME GOES ON
Many people buy into the idea that sex becomes less fun when you’re in an adult romantic relationship. The more time passes, the less fun adult sex becomes, right? Not true! In reality, it takes two proactive people, accepting of each other’s needs, and willing to make the effort to continually meet them. In other words, if you get bored, it’s your fault.
As relationships progress, they change. As you each grow emotionally, the way you see your partner will almost certainly be different than how you first saw them. Children, careers, long-term habits — all of these can affect your sex life into adulthood. As your relationship deepens, it’s important to keep things hot between the sheets.
New Exploration
Sure, sometimes the bedroom gets the same. But the feeling of being completely comfortable when trying something new otogethercan’t be underestimated. Even if you and your partner are a little bored, there’s no one better suited to open you up to new sexual experiences. This is one of the things that make sex in adult relationships better.
