There’s a good chance that you and your close friend talk about everything. And while probably 90% of the time you talk about what you want to eat and when and where to eat (at least that’s the case for me), sometimes sex toys. Maybe you both have a similar history with adult toys or maybe you’re completely different – but if you can’t talk to your friends about adult toys, who can? If you’re used to having honest and open conversations about sex toys, you might have a friend who is telling you that she has a hard time roaming with a sex toy, or that she never orgasms at all. As a friend, she’s likely expecting a lot from you. Maybe she just wants you to listen or give her advice. Maybe she doesn’t want anything at all. If she can’t orgasm…should I buy her a vibrator? Frankly, I’ve already done this In some cases, I think she was interested in trying a vibrator, but I knew she was too nervous to buy one herself. So I took care of it. But that doesn’t mean buying a vibrator is always the right decision. It depends a lot on your girlfriend and the sex toys you use. Things to keep in mind:
How open was your friend with you?
The most important consideration is how the friend framed the issue. Was your friend open about the fact that she had a problem? Or did you tease her out of it? As someone who speaks very openly about sex toys, I know how easy it can be to accidentally surprise or embarrass someone while thinking you’re helping them. Think about how open your friend is and what you know about her in general. Is she open or does she get shy when talking about personal issues? Buying someone a vibrator can be fun and silly, but it can also be intimate and intense, so you need to make sure you’re building the right kind of friendship.
Does she like to try new things?
Some people think that not having an orgasm is fine Now that she’s happy, it would be pushy and a bit opinionated to force her to try a vibrator with the goal of it still working. If your girlfriend seems happy with her sex toy life and her sex toys, it’s probably best to leave it at that. But if you know she wants to try something new, it might help to buy her one. If you like vibrators, it can be hard to accept that some people don’t like the idea of a vibrator at all. I know — if I could spoil me, I’d probably marry him — but some guys find her intimidating or just plain weird. As much as you’d love to show your girlfriend the wild and wonderful world of vibrators if you give her a vibrator, she’ll feel obligated to use it and love it. And remember, the prospect may make her uncomfortable. If you’re not sure, try bringing up the idea of a vibrator first to gauge her reaction.
