You sit there, you enjoy your time, and then the test comes – a time that is sometimes more important than the whole day. Let’s open with a little humor and a hint of irony because let’s be honest, sex dating is supposed to be fun – but they’re not!
When the check arrives, who pays? It’s the end of sexual dating woes. You had an amazing first day. The conversation went well; the chemistry was good, and now the waiter hands over the check while you’re really happy. Who got it? But we all know that sometimes, the person who pays comes up with something…let’s say an “exciting” prospect.
However, paying for a gender date is not automatically given the green light. Then at the end of the night (think eyebrow twitching and evil smile something needs to be fixed. Just because people stop eating doesn’t mean they have to stop for the evening to take the bedroom. Consent and mutual interest are at the heart of the game. This is not transactional love Remember, if it seems hopeless, you can say “no” but be thoughtful. If you feel like “I’m paying for it, so…” and you don’t, it’s okay to say “no.” You can be clear but strong. You can say something like, “I had a good time tonight, and I’m so glad to see you again.” But for me, love is the right time, and I like to take my time.
One way to avoid this whole problem is to split the bill. It keeps things consistent and avoids unrealistic expectations. In addition, it sets a good tone for the relationship based on respect and fairness. Let us touch. This is the 21st century. Sharing the bill is like sharing a dessert.
You have survived your first date and solved the problem of those who paid for the date. How about your next day? Who pays? If you like this person and want a second round, offer to pay for that time. This is a simple way of saying, “Hey, it’s good for you, not for your wallet.” A sexual dating partner’s dance is compared by showing that you are invested in this act of love.
It’s easy to think that you’re looking forward to a few extra bucks on your date, but sometimes, a single date that pays for lunch can be an act of kindness. Not all jobs have a hidden agenda. If your partner insists on paying, they may be saying, “I enjoyed your company and wanted to entertain you.” Accept this attitude—good work and good faith.
Regardless of who pays or what happens to date, remember that it’s just a day. Keep it in perspective and don’t let it distract from the main purpose – to connect and be together. Period
