Some people choose sexual love partners because they’re interested in that sort of thing. Handcuffs or whatever. But many of us get into relationships without even thinking about our sexual preferences.
Or we realize we want to try something while we’re already in a relationship. We are trained not to talk about these things, and you may even come from an environment where certain types of sex are considered “sinful”.
Here are some ways you can bring up this topic without feeling embarrassed or weird… and in fact,
Being weird isn’t a bad thing. Start by talking to you
To be honest, many of us find it hard to admit that we have sexual love partners, let alone talk about it to others. So start by talking to yourself. You can talk about your reflection. You may come up with alternatives or find that writing them down is a way to safely “release” sexual love, so write those down too.
There are plenty. Erotic anthologies, magazines, or even podcasts are good places to start. Share this story with your sexual partner and ask him to do the same. Talk about why the story attracted you. This will give you distance and be much less intimidating than saying what you want to say. You might even discover that you have sexual partners in common that you don’t want to talk about with each other.
Another way to do this is to pretend that your sexual love partner is a sexy dream about a sexual partner you had last night. (And be aware that when you have these dreams, it could be your subconscious showing you something that turns you on. Make it Emotional Sometimes it’s hard to talk about a
Particular sexual love partner:
B.Is there a risk of someone breaking in Is it a general taboo regarding this particular sexual love partner? Talking about emotions can be safer and helps you understand the intense nature of the topic. For example, if u get excited about someone breaking in, you can think about how you can create that fear by Having a sex toy fully clothed to hide your nakedness from imaginary voyeurs. Create the right atmosphere
Have these conversations at the right time. A romantic candlelit dinner at home (probably not in a restaurant) within or beer is a great way to talk about sex in general. If you can’t talk about your fantasies right away, practice talking about things you already do and like, or what your sexual partner does for/with you and what you enjoy.
Avoid talking about it when you might be interrupted; for example, feeding the cat first. Making talking about sex a routine will improve your relationship in general. It may be difficult at first, so keep it simple and, as you get more comfortable with the concept and with each other, expand into taboo topics.
Be respectful
unfortunately, at some point, you and your partner will likely reveal a fantasy that the other person isn’t interested in. Whether it’s something as intense as bondage or something as mild as fantasizing about your partner in a red thong, you need to respect that if he’s not into it. For most of us, an undivided
Sexual love isn’t a deal breaker.
it’s a particularly taboo topic. If there is an imbalance between you and your relationship, you need to resolve it as soon as possible.
You need your partner’s full and enthusiastic consent to experience sexual love. Don’t force your partner to do anything or let your partner force you to do anything. If either of you are unsure, find a compromise Also, it is best to tell the truth without making excuses.
Know that it’s okay to act normal
when we talk about fantasy; we often talk about inky off threesomes, spanking, bondage, and voyeurism. That’s okay and completely normal because everyone has sexual love but if your wildest sexual romantic fantasy involves a partner wearing a black lace teddy bear (get a little wilder if you’re into men), there’s nothing wrong with that. Being normal isn’t boring and it works for a lot of people. It’s okay if you or your sexual love partner is like this. It might not work if one person is into wild BDSM and the other isn’t, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
